I’m not sure about you, but my entire life I’ve been on this never-ending race to the unknown finish line. No matter where I was, what I did, or the things I’d accomplish, it was never enough – I always felt behind in life and was racing to catch up to some imaginary point where I’d finally be…well…happy. Or worthy of happiness.
In fact, this is something I’ve been struggling with a whole lot lately. It’s funny, I told myself just 2 years ago that quitting my job, running a business, and traveling whenever I’d like would make me happy.
And now that I’m here, I feel like I’m farther behind than ever before.
I look at my friends in corporate careers and tell myself, “Gosh, you made the most stupid decision of your life when you left. Look how much farther ahead they are. Look at how successful they are. Look at how much money they make compared to you.”
Whether you’re an entrepreneur, a mom, or a gal in corporate….can you relate? Have you ever felt like you were behind in life? Have you ever struggled with feeling like it’s too late for you, like the ship has already sailed, or that heavy elephant of regret is just parked on your chest?
Deep breath. We’re in this together.
I want to share with you these 10 reminders, 10 truths rather, that will help you feel like you’re exactly where you need to be and propel you forward into where you’d like to go.
You can’t get a rose to blossom by beating it with a hammer. Meaning, you won’t get where you’d like to be by telling yourself you suck, beating yourself up for all the things you haven’t done, or hating XYZ about yourself.
It’s never too late. You’ve heard it before, but you can’t compare your first page to someone’s chapter 20. Each of us has our own journey, our own process, and our own path and it’s never too late for you. Vera Wang didn’t design her first dress until she was 40. Samuel L. Jackson didn’t land a movie gig until he was 42. Tony Robbins used to be a janitor. Steve Jobs was FIRED from Apple. It’s never too late and you’re never out of hope.
You were put here for a purpose. The odds of you being alive and on this planet are practically zero (read this article for the science behind the miracle that you are) and if you start believing in that and trusting that there’s a plan for your life, you’ll start to think/feel/act differently. You have a purpose and it’s never too late to step into it.
You’re farther ahead than where you were a year ago. Put money, possessions, and jobs aside. No matter where you are in this moment you are far richer – in knowledge, in skills, in experience –than you were a year ago. You aren’t behind! You’re ahead!
You have 1 “expectation” of you. Love others. The milestones, the responsibilities, the imaginary benchmarks of “success” those are all other people’s ideas, not yours and certainly not those of God who created you. Love others and the rest will fall into place.
It takes ONE spark to start a wildfire. That spark could be in the form of a phone call, a relationship, an opportunity, or you finally deciding to speak your truth even if your voice shakes. You never know when your legacy moment will come, so instead of focusing on being behind, focus on preparing for the moment to come. You want to be ready when you’re called on to do great things.
If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid. Meaning, you keep telling yourself behind compared to your friends, compared to people on social media, compared to everyone else, but what if you’re completely ignoring the fact that you’ve made GREAT strides in other areas of your life? What if you’re farther ahead in THOSE areas, and that’s directly tied to the purpose for your life?
You become the 5 people you spend the majority of your time with. If you’d like to make advancements in your life, there’s no shame in that. Start to surround yourself with people who you admire, who are doing things with their lives that you’d like to emulate.
Fast doesn’t always mean better. I live in Florida where it rains often, and it usually takes about 2 days for wild mushrooms to sprout up in my grass. They grow fast, but I can crush them under my shoe in a second. The trees on the other hand? They take a bit longer, but they withstand the hurricanes, the torrential downpours, the heat, and the humidity. They’re strong, like you, but they take time to grow.
At the end of the day, we all want to “live our best life”. The best way to do that, is to actually live. Try new things, meet new people, check items off your bucket list, learn a new skill, love deeply…those things will make you feel content, happy, worthy, and whole regardless of where you are in life.